It’s important to be sensitive and understanding when communicating with a hoarder. Here are some things you should avoid saying:
- “Just throw it all away.” This can be extremely triggering for a hoarder, who may have a deep emotional attachment to their possessions. It’s important to recognize that the hoarding behavior is a coping mechanism and to approach it with compassion.
- “It’s just stuff.” While it may be difficult for you to understand the emotional significance of the hoarder’s possessions, it’s important to recognize that these items may have deep meaning and value to the hoarder.
- “You’re a hoarder.” Using labels like “hoarder” can be stigmatizing and may only serve to further alienate the person. It’s important to focus on the behavior and not label the individual.
- “You need to get rid of this now.” It’s important to recognize that the process of decluttering will take time and may be emotionally difficult for the hoarder. Pressuring them to get rid of things too quickly may only serve to increase their anxiety and resistance.
It’s important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, and to offer support and encouragement to the hoarder as they work to address their hoarding behavior.